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solenn's avatar

thank you for writing this, it was very interesting reading about your experience and insight, something that isn't talked about enough, i feel like people think that colonization is over and in the past, so thank you for speaking up. and it was so beautifully written, thank you !

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Aisha Awaisu's avatar

Reading this left me dumbfounded. Yes I grew up in Nigeria but as a Muslim girl in my Secondary school in Lagos we had a choice to wear the Hijab and I took it as we didn’t have that choice in primary school. I didn’t know how deep Nigerians hate one another. This is deep shame that is actually so hard to comprehend. So sorry for going through this and seeing this. Nigerians need to do better and it starts by someone accepting their natural 4c/4b hair.

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Nengi★࣪'s avatar

Thank you! It's really refreshing to hear your experience because muslim girls in my secondary school really struggled to get permission to wear a hijab, there was a school hat but that was inefficient. It was a whole thing before they started making school hijabs bc parents got involved. I absolutely understand that and the funny thing is that these experiences differ across the country, thankfully our generation is more aware and hopefully we do better as a nation.

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Aisha Awaisu's avatar

I truly hope we do as a generation.

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Candy Nike's avatar

From nursery to university, we're being told how to keep our hair away from appearing "too African". Even in the corporate world, it's straight hair that wins the day. We just can't win as African girls.

So glad I found your page. Your posts are awe-inspiring and relatable as a Nigerian girl.

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Nengi★࣪'s avatar

You're absolutely right and thank you so much! I love that you're here!!💞

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Candy Nike's avatar

It's my pleasure 💗🌸

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Rosalita Musings's avatar

I'm Kenyan, the rules were strict in some parts of the country. It's so absurd that I'm learning about 4c hair in campus when its been a part of my life forever. I love it so much and going back, I would have told everyone no I don't want to relax my hair cause I have to but when I want to. No I feel more comfortable with this hairstyle than what you're asking me to wear.

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Nengi★࣪'s avatar

Honestlyyyyy!! You get it! It's a struggle but thankfully we're more aware and can do better for the future generation.

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Amanda Izzo's avatar

Just subbed 🧡 this was beautiful

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Nengi★࣪'s avatar

thank you dear❣️❣️

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Zayyad Tahir's avatar

Lord have mercyyyyyyy, this is very very beautiful 😭 i will surely come back to add to this cause i been wanting to VENTTT. I've had this conversation one too many times fr, this was really good😭

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Nengi★࣪'s avatar

thank you so much!!!

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